ihaveapartnertolearnenglishwith.wepracticespokenenglishtwiceaweek,andafterthistime'spractice,sheendedwithasuggestion"ithinkyoushouldlearntosayno.youalwaysmakeotherstomakeyourdesicionwithoutplimant,theysuggestandyousaythat'sokay,nomatterwhatyouarejustdecidedtodoandinthiswayotherswilltakemuchofyourtime.learntosayno,andonlyinthiswaycanyoubeyourself."
ijustrememberedthefirstspeechourteachergaveuslastyear,thefirsttimeiwenttothecollege,hesaidthesamething,learntosayno.
ithoughtoveraboutthisandobservedsomething.maybeit'snotonlyanattitude.alsotosaynocan'tbeclassifiedtoakindofunrespect.it'sachoice,whichyoushouldandmustmakewhenothersopionwentrighttoyoursatthesametimeandyoucouldnotneedtosacrifiseyourstoplishothers.it'ssomehowakindofcourage.noteveryonehasthecouragetodoso,neitherdoi,sothat'smyreasonwhyialwayssayyestoothers,but,takeacarefulaccout,theirthingssometimesisnotyourbusiness,whyyouwasteyourtimetodothat
maybeireallyshouldlearntosayno,andhowaboutyoumyfriend
learnhowtosayno
we'veallbeentaughtthatweshouldhelppeople.itistherightthingtodoandwillmakeuspopularwithothers.itmayevenwinusfavorsinreturn.however,wemustberealistic.wecan'tsayyestoeveryrequest.ifwedid,wewouldfailorgocrazyforsure.sometimeswesimplydon'thavethetimetohelp.inthiscase,wemustknowhowtosaynopolitely.
whenweneedtosayno,hereisonemethodwecantry.first,weshouldtellthetruth.ifwereallycan'tdosomething,weshouldjustsayso.second,weshouldremembertorefuserequestspolitely.wemustmunicateclearly,butmustalsobesincereandsympathetic.atruefriendwillunderstand.finally,wemustnotfeelguiltyaboutsayingno.sometimesrefusingothersistherightthingtodo.itcansaveourselves,andthem,alotoftrouble.inshort,wecannotpleaseeveryoneallthetime.refusingfavorsisapartoflife.
学习如何说不
当我们需要说不的时候，有个办法我们可以试试。首先，我们应该要说实话。假如我们真的办不到某件事，我们就应该说不。第二，我们应该记得要客气地拒绝对方的要求。我们必须清楚地表达，但态度也必须真诚并且表示同情。一个真正的朋友会谅解的。最后，我们不必为了说不而觉得有罪恶感。有时候拒绝别人才是我们应该做的事。它可以替我们自己和别人，都省下许多麻烦。总而言之，我们无法一直取悦每个人。拒绝请求是人生的一部分。